How to deal with Failure?

How to deal with failure? No learning, or advice is helpful in that state of mind. What do I do?

Remember that you’re going to die one day. You are going to leave everything behind. All your degrees, awards, necklaces and diamonds, everything will remain here, of which you’ve been so possessive. So when you know that one day you have to leave everything behind and go, you’ll say, ‘Failure, okay failed, what to do? I offer that to the Divine as well’.

Remember that every failure is a step towards success. It is a learning process. You should see it this way perhaps. There are only two situations: either you win or you make others win. You should be proud of making others win.
When elders play with children at home, they don’t always win, sometimes they make the children win and feel happy in their happiness. So making others win is a sign of a big mind. Finding joy in the happiness of others is a sign of a big mind.

There is a beautiful story in the Ramayan. In the chapter called Bharat Milaap, when Bharat meets Ram, both of them forget their Sankalpas (vows).
Ram says to Bharat, ‘I’ll do whatever you want’.
Upon hearing this, Bharat is overcome with happiness and emotion. Ram had left the kingdom to keep his father’s vow and he had himself vowed that he would not return till 14 years had passed. If he were to return on Bharat’s request, he would be accused of breaking his vow. And Ram took his vows very seriously. He believed in ‘Praan jaaye par vachan na jaye’ (It’s okay if I lose my life, but may I never break my vow).
So, Bharat on realizing that Ram, who valued his vow more than even his own life, was ready to break his vow for him and said, ‘No brother, you please carry on as you wish’.
So it is said that their minds got swapped. Ram’s mind went to Bharat and vice versa. This is what we call a sign of love.

It’s a very unique story where there is no desire for oneself. All these are ideals. These ideals help in preventing us from deviating from our principles.

Note – It is an excerpt of Sri Sri Ravishankar Guruji’s satsang discourse at Art of Living.

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  1. N.G.Sreenivasa Rao -Madhwa- Bharadwaja-Sripadaraja Mutt group- Super Senior Citizen says:

    My guiding star/motto: Do not worry. Let worry, worry itself. Enjoy over it. Every thing will start coming round. Do not ponder over it wasting your valuable time of life, but try to find out or investigate the causes or reasons for the worry to worry you. Start taking long breath as many times as you can. (Pranayama). I had and held discussions-one way me alone speaking. You can ask with whom and where? Well my answer: Go to any place of worship which you regularly visit. Complete your prayer. Sit calmly and patiently. Sit in such a place where-from you can view of the Almighty. Close your eyes. Then start conveying the problem and worries you have. Say, Oh Lord! I have faced with a problem which has started worrying me. I am unable to do or concentrate on any work. I tried my best to over-come it. But so far not successful. Anyatha Saranam NAsti twameva. raksha mAm.(sanskrit) there is no other way round nor none to pull me out. You are the only one to help me.Leave the rest to him and start thinking afresh on your next job/work/assignment/ or anything. Certainly you will an answer and sort out the problem. Ninna Nambidavaru kedalilla (Kannada). None have lost by trusting you. Take it easy. Result: ALL THE BEST……..subham……mangalam….
    Jai Veera Hanuman…Sri Hanumathe namah